Impermanence is not just the law of this physical world, but the greatest tool for Spiritual transformation. We may know the simple fact that the world is in a continuous flux of change, but the influence of the illusive potencies of mind does not allow us to see that and truly absorb this reality and reflect on it in our day-to-day activities of life. We behave as if everything is permanent, including our own physical body and our physical home.
Way back in the 90s I was visiting Miami, Florida, when news came to us that shocked us all. A very successful doctor built a mansion and worked on it day and night so that it would last forever. He had hours of angry arguments with his wife and children on issues of upholstery, color, and interior designs. He was a very notable person in the community, but just this building of the house drained much of his energy and stressed him out as he insisted it be made in the way he wanted, going against the wishes of his wife and children. On the day of his house warming, when there was so much going on, he had heart attack and died.
This episode proves how spouses can fight on the small daily issues just to dominate or control the other, thereby losing the whole beauty of life. It is so easy to break up relationships but it takes a lot to be empathetic and compassionate to heal the weaknesses of the other. And move on in life as if we are questioned, “what would you do if this is your last moment of life?” Have you noticed that once a person is given the ultimatum of how much time they have until death, his or her life and attitude completely changes!! Even the most arrogant person becomes so soft and sober, loving and understanding. I believe this is the true state of understanding the law of impermanence. If we understand this law intuitively, which only the practice of meditation can give us, then our life would be completely different. Even the most control freaks would turn into loving and compassionate beings. Possibly we could have not mansions but homes of love and harmony!! What do you think?