My son flew out today back to his post in Baghdad... i'm feeling uneasy while he is in the air.. his time in just went way to fast... he has grown emotionally since being gone the last 6 months.. he still seems to be the same young man that left back in april.. He did have a few things to say to me that really hurt my feelings.. its almost like the parent has become the child.. He was quite critical.. I'm a free spirit and i take things very personal and probably shouldn't.
I feel like i should write him a letter to tell him why his words hurt my feelings but then i feel like i should just let it go... let me tell you what he said so you know.. i have been working very hard on my yard to landscape etc, i live across the street from the tenn river and its like a rain forest here.. the grass etc grows.. and i don't mean like subdivision grass, i'm talking like jungle grass... and i'm on 1 1/2 acre on a hill... its very hard on me mowing weeding etc.. but i do it every year.. so this year, while he has been gone, i got 2 dumptruck loads of mulch delivered and a friend helped me landscape around the back and front of my home as i'm trying to kill some of my grass thus cutting down my mowing,,, for when i get old. lol. but of course my son, you got to figure whether or not his critical dad was around,, those genes are still there.. Mr Critical came out,, how i need to clean up the yard,, well i thought i had done quite well....sure there was a old grill and i few things that needs to be hauled off, but thats been out there for several years.. and like i told him,,, he has a truck, he could haul that off for me anytime.. But of course i'm sure he didn't mean anything by his comments , but since my dad has been gone,, the one man that was always on my side come hell or high water.. i would expect my son to be on my side regardless. and it just didn't seem like he was.. so does anyone have any advise for me before i write him this letter.. we have a pretty wonderful relationship all in all,, but he does hurt my feelings occassionally and doesn't understand that he has...he also doesn't realize that my memory is very good and long.. i don't forget things, especially the things the folks i love say to me.. any advice??