Today's Small Change: Reconnect with a friend.
Research shows that friendships not only enhance your life but also protect and improve
your health. And studies show that the happiest people are those who have both good
mental health and good social relationships.
Today I want you to think about the relationships you have with people outside your
family - your friends, coworkers, neighbors, and others you have daily contact with. Who
do you consider your friends? Would you like closer relationships with them, or to spend
more time with them?
Friendships take time and tending the same way that your relationships with your family
do, and it's natural to put our jobs and families ahead of our friends. But making time
for people whom you connect with and can laugh with enriches your life. Keeping in touch
- whether by phone, e-mail, letters, or get-togethers - is an essential part of staying
close. Today's small change is to reconnect with a friend, perhaps someone you haven't
seen or spoken to in longer than you had intended. Chances are good that your friend
misses you, too, and will be delighted that you took the initiative to catch up.
Sometimes friends grow apart; as new friendships are made through circumstance or shared
interests, others are lost. It may be that you and an old friend don't feel as though you
have much in common anymore, or have too much going on in your lives to stay meaningfully
connected. But if it is a relationship that's really important to you, you may want to
talk to your friend about your relationship before you drift apart for good. Tell your
friend how you feel and ask if there's a way to reconnect. There may also be something
going on in your friend's life that has affected her - something you don't know about.
You won't know unless you ask.