Lately I have observed a "drama" situation in my vicinity that highlighted this question, "what can I get??" Somehow it struck a heavy chord in my heart as I too am guilty on falling into this space of Conditional Love, as I understand it. It made me ponder on it and ask this question, "Why are many of us hanged-up in knowing what is in for us before we can truly give?"
Love is defined as Giving, and giving "unconditionally." This may be a hard act to follow to many, perhaps only because of ignorance of who we are. I believe that this "commandment" was given to us (to love unconditionally) not to mock us, but because it can be done, if understood. Indeed, "knowledge is power" and as Merlin would say "It is the doom of man that he forgets." And so, allow me to share a few points I pondered on that reminded me of who I am and "Why I can give", instead of "What can I get?"
I can Give because ;
1) There is no lack in the Universe. lack only exist only in my mind. I can give because there is more where it came
from (Law of Infinite Supply) If it feels good to give (guidance within), then I shall not have any fear of lack.
2) My guidance comes from within me and this guidance comes from an Intelligent , wise Source that
knows all things, and infact have proven itself many, many times as I trusted in it with bold faith. I am always
taken cared of. Why am I fearing now?
3) It is easy to "love" someone who is lovable- and infact we think we are really loving them! True Love is
unconditional; It goes beyond surfaces, and refuses to see the lower energy of a person, but rather, sees the True
potential. The God within me is also in every person- whether I like or don't like them.
4) Oneness means we attract what is likened to ourselves. The thing I feel I abhor in another is actually me seeing
myself. Am I not glad that I can see myself so that I can improve on me and get to focus my
thoughts to that which I will be happy about when they manifest? I can choose to change my
thoughts/feelings such that my outer will not affect me in a negative way .
5) To Know that I am here to grow and be in a position to "Give" is the motivation. To meditate is to
connect to our higher self for power and clear guidance. To contemplate is to ponder on concepts such as the
Universal laws of Oneness, Cause and Effect and Infinite Supply that helps us "see" ourselves in our relations.
This is "Oneness" : That there is no "other," in the permanent "reality" but all are mirroring one another.
As I understand this, then to give to myself is a joy, and to give to another is divine. What I have given to myself is
what I give others, and what I give others is what I have given to me.
Love is all about growth and expansion, and the "others" are our vehicle.
Therefore, if I keep thinking of what I can get, I will be given situtations that too, "gets" from me. (don't complain,
And The real Question is : What more can I give to myself? (others)